How to ignore a man or any person who is unpleasant to you. What is ignoring

There are no tricks in the arsenal of a man in love. Often they are whole multi-way strategies that allow you to envelop the passion in your networks. For example, some people resort to ignoring, considering it the best way to bind a person they like to themselves.

Such a strategy can really bring the desired result, but it must be used correctly. Do not forget that the effect of such actions must be “fixed”, otherwise the passion will cool off towards its conqueror in as soon as possible.

• How does ignore work?
• What to do next?
• Reviews and comments

How does ignore work?

Why is this method considered effective? This is largely due to one interesting quality of a person - he is able to take an interest in someone who ignores him.

Nevertheless, psychologists say that such an approach can help draw a person’s attention only for a while, but having achieved his goal, this ignored interest will lose. In addition, according to experts, you can count on this method only if the passion initially has at least minimal sympathy for the one who is trying to win it.

You can show indifference in several cases:

• Immediately, as soon as they begin to show attention to you;
• You can start ignoring a person in order to bind him to yourself after flirting or even at the initial stage of a romantic relationship. This is a more advantageous option, since you will let your passion know that you like her, while in the first case you can simply scare her away with your indifference. In addition, before you bind a person to yourself, you can understand how he treats you, whether there is an interest on his part.

What do psychologists say about attachment?

Experts speak of it as a state in which a person is attracted to someone or something. At the same time, in the definition of attachment there is a mention that this attraction, as a rule, is not due to profit, love, or some other interest.

However, this does not mean that a person put on ignore is guaranteed not to begin to feel sympathy or even love for his conqueror.

In psychology, there are several types of attachment between people. If we talk about the relationship between a man and a woman, it is worth remembering that sometimes partners develop a pathological attachment. If there is a feeling of unhealthy, painful attachment, a person is deprived of freedom, becomes dependent on a partner, due to which, as a rule, both do not feel comfort in such a pair. Love in such a union is also usually not discussed.

But relations can develop in a different scenario. A feeling of affection can arise not only on the basis of sympathy for each other, you can also bind a loved one to yourself on the basis of such an aspect as common interests.

How to use ignore?

How to act in order to achieve the desired result?

Consider a few tips from psychologists:

• If you like a representative of the opposite sex, try to portray indifference not immediately after meeting, but when he already feels mutual sympathy from you;

• To attract the attention of a loved one with the help of ignore, always be polite and even gentle, even in those moments when you refuse to meet him. Moreover, do not consider it reckless to tell your passion that you are very sorry that your date will not take place;
• Do not postpone your meetings for a long time, otherwise ignoring can lead to the fact that the representative of the opposite sex you like will simply cool off;
• Postpone the meeting with your potential partner several times. At the same time, it would be useful to make a date a couple of times, but at the last moment call back and say that your plans have changed dramatically.

Do not forget that you need to act subtly and very carefully for this method to work, otherwise the representative of the opposite sex you like will guess your strategy and lose interest.

In addition, you can not use this method in relation to the person who used the ignore to get your attention.

If you decide to use indifference to draw attention to yourself, you should also think about what to do next, because psychology says that often in this way you can attract attention to yourself only for a short time.

What to do next?

Sooner or later you will meet your passion, because neither you nor your partner need you to keep him intrigued for years.

First of all, remember that the date you finally agree to should be initiated by a member of the opposite sex.

Consider the advice on how to bind a person to yourself that psychology gives.

• Find common interests with him and unobtrusively label them to him. It is important that these are really your interests, plans, hobbies, etc. You should not lie about what you like to do, watch, listen to something, if this is not so - sooner or later the deception will be revealed, and you will disappoint the person whom wanted to win over;

• Be optimistic. You should please your potential partner, and not bore him and discourage him. Your communication should be easy, unobtrusive, along with your passion, you should enjoy life. Create comfortable conditions for pleasant joint pastime. Try to tell your partner less about your problems so that psychologically he perceives you as an airy and carefree person - this will allow you to quickly bind a person to yourself;
• Don't forget about appearance. As trite as this advice may sound, it must be remembered that a representative of the opposite sex must also be attracted visually;
• The ability to communicate is also important. Try to keep the conversation going, be interested in the opinion of your partner, so that he feels psychologically comfortable, and he does not have the feeling that he is an uninteresting interlocutor for you. If you are a professional in any business, demonstrate your knowledge, but not too intrusively, so as not to tire the interlocutor;
• If you have the opportunity to communicate with someone from the environment of your passion, this best chance influence the person you like through them. Only for this you need to do everything to please these people, whoever they are - friends, colleagues, relatives or even parents.

These are the first steps that you have to take in the first stages of building a relationship. If you decide that your feelings are strong, and you have a wonderful future together, you will have to make more efforts. At this stage, ignore the best remedy, because it will need to act completely differently.

Become reliable and supportive in everything else for your soulmate, do not seek to change him - apart from a negative reaction from him, you will not achieve anything else with this.

Accept a person as he is, and do not try to make him the one you would like to see in front of you. Become an inspiration for your partner, but you don’t need to control him - he needs to feel that you trust him.

So, you can bind a person to yourself with the help of ignore, but just think for a start whether you exactly planned your actions, because he should not guess anything.

Hello to all fans to delve into the brain! No, I'm not talking about surgeons and pathologists, I'm talking about those who are impressed by psychology, those who don't feed bread - let's study such a complex phenomenon as a person.

Today I will touch on a slightly rare, but not at all boring topic - ignoring individuals of their own kind. We will understand why ignore - The best way bind a person. We also think about why this “method of attracting attention” is so effective.

Where do the legs grow from or why does the ignore work in the opposite direction?

Surely, many of you have heard that by ignoring a person, you can attract his attention. But at the same time, the question immediately arises: “Is this even legal?”. How it works?

Human nature is such that we are all selfish creatures! And this is an established fact, even the most altruistic people are not able to argue with the laws of nature, which work on the conscious and subconscious levels.

If we are still able to control the consciousness, then the subconscious, alas, is not.

“Why ignore a person to get attention,” you ask. After all, you can, on the contrary, try to “show yourself” in all its glory!

But the reality is that a person who is ignored, in most cases, is able to experience the feeling that he was rejected.

And then Her Majesty "Naroticism" enters the scene. Together with selfishness, this gives a nuclear mixture, prompting a person to prove his significance and importance.

This is where it begins ... The attention of the ignored to the ignored increases quite significantly. In fact, it works precisely because the ignored person wants to prove his importance, first of all, to himself - that he is needed, that he is noticed.

Therefore, we can say that such a “seduction scheme” works solely from the selfish motives of a potential victim. And considering that a person initially has a code in his subconscious to love himself, which encourages him to increase the level of his own self-sufficiency, then this method works for most people.

However, it is worth considering that this method is not a magic wand and it does not guarantee one hundred percent success in attracting attention. It works at certain conditions, which I propose to get acquainted with right now.

Instructions for management: how to draw attention to yourself with the help of ignore and why is it needed at all?

To begin with, it is advisable to decide for what purpose you want to attract the attention of a certain person: to amuse your ego, play with other people's feelings, or achieve his disposition towards yourself. Everyone has their own preferences, but this law of psychology works for everyone the same.

First, don't ignore the person you want to get attention from the start. First, show that he is important to you. Otherwise, you risk scaring him away with your indifference.

After you have made it clear to him that you like him, start acting.

But do not try to flirt and douse this person with your cold attitude towards him. It is best to be polite to him: when rescheduling a meeting, tell him about it gently and express your disappointment about such a force majeure.

Secondly, do not delay ignoring! Otherwise, you will get the appropriate result - the person will lose interest in you and cool off.

It is worth ignoring only for a short time to attract attention, after which you need to act, and not continue to dynamize your potential passion (this is especially true for men, although a priori it will not act in this way).

By the way, it’s worth a little reservation that this technique does not work for all people, because some of them have a low degree. Namely, it makes a person prove his worth.

Therefore, it will be difficult to ignore the attention of a person who is absolutely violet, what others think about him and whether they even pay attention to him.

Nevertheless, this method of "seduction" should not be written off. I'm also interested in hearing your opinions and stories on this topic. On this I do not say goodbye to you, but I say: "See you soon!".

Always me - Sasha Bogdanova

Secular people are so accustomed to being looked for acquaintances with them that

anyone who avoids them seems to them a curiosity and completely captures their attention.

Marcel Proust. At the Guermantes

Ignoring as a quality of a person is a tendency to deliberately not notice, not to take into account a person, information, facts.

A young man rode in a shiny new Jaguar in good mood humming some tune. Suddenly he saw children sitting by the road. After he carefully drove around them, was about to pick up speed again, he suddenly heard a stone hit the car. The young man stopped the car, got out of it and, grabbing one of the boys by the scruff of the neck, began to shake him, shouting: - Bastard! Why the hell did you throw a rock at my car! Do you know how much this car costs?!

Forgive me, the boy replied. “It was not my intention to harm you or your machine. The fact is that my brother is disabled, he fell out of the wheelchair, but I cannot lift him, he is too heavy for me. For several hours we have been asking for help, but not a single car has stopped. I had no choice but to throw the stone, otherwise you wouldn't have stopped either.

The young man helped to seat the disabled person in a chair, trying to hold back tears and suppress a lump in his throat. Then he went to his car and saw a dent in the brand new shiny door left from the stone. He drove this car for many years, and every time the mechanics offered to fix this dent in the door, he said no, because it reminded him every time that if you ignore people, a stone will fly at you.

Ignoring - to pretend to Madrid that you have a veil over your eyes. Deliberately not seeing, noticing and not communicating, such as Your subscriber temporarily does not like you.

In dictionaries, it is usually interpreted as a type of relationship between people to each other, a method of influencing a person in order to control his behavior, consisting in inattention, neglect, non-recognition of him, his actions and words. Ignoring in education is used as a method of punishment for misconduct, as a method of excommunication, alienation of a person from communication with important people, from participating in significant cases. Children are very sensitive to the influence of this method, so you can’t use it for a long time: “It’s the most offensive when they don’t pay attention to you. Here, honestly, it would be better to swear. (Max Fry)

In a word, ignoring is one of the most involved ways of protecting a person from circumstances, as well as a way of punishing another person, that is, one of the types of emotional abuse.

Doctor, everyone is ignoring me! - Next! Ignoring - avoiding decision- ignore: - I can't see you at point-blank range! For example, a girl, for some reason, "does not notice" a guy.

Summer, sea, south... The guy has just arrived, he is walking along the beach and, oh, he sees a naked girl sunbathing. The guy is seized with tetanus: his eyes are rounded, his jaw is lowered, saliva has flowed, his lip has rolled. The girl relaxed raises her head: - New? — Aha! "So I haven't given it to you yet?" - Nah ... The girl puts a combination of three fingers: - ON!

Why resist something when you can ignore it? Excesses with ignoring can lead to indifference. It is dangerous to keep your distance from problems. Avoidance in the form of ignoring is good in moderation. You have to make some decisions about how to respond to a problem. For example, the father’s constant disregard for domestic problems - at first because of fatigue, and then out of habit, but they don’t bother him anymore, “let the wife figure it out.”

An amazing phenomenon: a person, completely ignoring his problems, spends as much energy on self-justification as if he really solved the problems that have arisen. Ignoring the laws of the universe always ends sadly. I do not recommend joking with objective laws that do not depend on our will and consciousness.

They say that laziness is a fear extended over time. And excuses can serve as the cause of this fear. There is a phrase - "Only an idler could get so tired." People call such states: “tired of living”, “life has become a burden”, “I carry a load on my shoulders”, etc. The box opens simply: there is an equal sign between the energy of action and the energy of justification . The person who justifies his inaction gets tired just like the person who solved the problem. To keep excuses in your mind, you need to spend an equivalent amount of energy with real actions by solving the problem. With this explanation, it becomes clear why fatigue accompanies laziness. Laziness is a form of accumulated fatigue due to the expenditure of energy holding onto your own excuses. A lazy, that is, a person making excuses, faces a choice - either action or excuses. The need to choose causes fear. The importance that a person sees in a problem only increases fear. If excuses are taken away from laziness, then, even scary to say, you will have to make decisions and act.

How appropriate is ignorance? Psychologist Alena Voronets writes: “For example, the mother-in-law answered somehow rudely to the question of her daughter-in-law. It is worth considering whether this is typical behavior or the person was tired, irritated and out of control. If the latter, then why focus attention on this and respond with aggression to aggression. It would be wiser to let the rudeness pass by. But if this is the norm for the aforementioned mother-in-law and she consciously leads to conflict, then there is a problematic situation that needs to be resolved in order for normal communication to be possible. Serious problems are categorically not recommended to be ignored. Moving away from them, you will not be able to find a solution, which means that they will remain and over time will acquire unnecessary facts that clog the situation even more.

The same mother-in-law, for some reason dissatisfied with her daughter-in-law, will continue to use rudeness, include other members of the family circle in the conflict, until the strength of the daughter-in-law comes to naught. As a result, a grandiose scandal or, worse, the quiet withering of the daughter-in-law due to fear of a frank conversation and solving the problem with the mother-in-law. The reason for ignoring serious problems can be a banal fear: the fear of failure, the fear of losing time and money for solving the problem.

Ignoring is one of the types of not listening. You can actively listen and hear a person, you can pretend that you are listening, you can listen with a pretension, or you can simply ignore, that is, ignore, interrupt, mock, ridicule. Listening with disregard is disrespect and ignorance. A person does not see a personality in another person, rejects it in advance.

A person who ignores spiritual reality shows one-sidedness and superficial thinking. If there is matter, then there is antimatter. Ignoring the spiritual reality greatly hinders timely embark on the path of spiritual development. This is a fat minus of ignoring.

Petr Kovalev

We are all very different. Therefore, we strive to communicate with some people, and we don’t even want to look at some. Sometimes contact with a person brings us only disappointment, pain and irritation. Sometimes we try to build relationships, but this again leads to negative emotions. So what to do? To endure further or stop communication? Of course, the second option. And if the “unpleasant” is trying to impose his society on? The only way out is to learn how to ignore him so that you stop any attempts to communicate.

The meaning of ignore

Usually, people start ignoring someone for one of two reasons:

• Desire to stop talking.
• The desire to show their resentment, point out mistakes and restore relationships (teach a lesson).

How to ignore a person

So you've decided to show your boyfriend or girlfriend that you can't take these antics anymore. How to do it:

• To begin with, you should understand that to stop noticing a person is a serious matter. Firstly, it is not easy, and secondly, the “unpleasant” may in fact never communicate with you again. It is better not to resort to the method of ignoring for an hour, a day or a week to get someone's attention or point out the fault of the offender.
• Before you stop noticing a person, try to get into his position and understand why he behaves this way. Did he have good reasons for doing so? What if you provoked this behavior by doing something wrong?
• Before ignoring a guy or a girl, ask what is the reason for such a wrong attitude towards you. There are situations when you can discuss everything and forget. At the very least, make at least an attempt to talk, because it's not every day that you throw a person out of your life without warning.
• So, you firmly decided that without this person you will be better off. Be direct. Unable to build a relationship, firmly tell the person that you do not want to know him anymore. Do not show your anger, just put before the fact. Maintain courtesy. Some people don't realize that before you say something like that, you've thought through your position clearly and are sure of your decision. Therefore, after such words, they will continue to seek communication with you. How to ignore a girl or guy? The main thing is to be consistent. Do not read this person's messages, do not pick up the phone when he calls, do not answer anything. It happens that meeting with the “unpleasant” still cannot be avoided, if, for example, this is your colleague, you will not change your job because of some intriguer. Do not argue at these meetings, do not pay any attention to this person at all. If she is too pushy, tell her to leave you alone, once and for all.
• You must be ready for the siege. When the bore realizes that she has been ignored, she will be very angry. Perhaps rumors will begin to circulate about you. Do not hide from your friends that you do not like this person, and you are trying to get rid of his unpleasant society, then they will not believe in various nasty things that may be said about you. Just do not try to win friends over to your side, let them form their opinion about this person.
• When meeting, try to feel normal. Get over the awkwardness. Forget about etiquette, if you don't want to say hello, don't do it. When, for example, you need to communicate with him at work, try to keep this communication to a minimum. And when faced somewhere in a store or on the street, generally pretend that you did not notice this person. If he comes up and starts talking to you about something, as if nothing had happened, tell him that you are in too much of a hurry and you don’t have time to talk.
• Restrict access to yourself and your data in in social networks. Privacy settings give you the ability to make sure that you are only available to your family and friends.

Now you know how to ignore people and there will be no more unpleasant, obsessive personalities in your life.

Ignoring someone can be quite difficult, especially if you constantly run into this person on your way if they try to talk to you or don't quite understand what's going on. But if you really need to ignore this person, then try to look very busy with your business, change your usual way of life and cut off all contact with this person. Check out the following tips about how to ignore someone.

Steps

Use body language

1. Don't look this person in the eye. Not making eye contact is the best way to ignore people. Once your eyes meet, it will show that you are aware of the existence of this person, and your efforts to ignore him will be in vain. If this person is in close proximity to you, avoid making eye contact at all costs. Look at everyone except him, look in front of you or just at the floor.

   • If a person is shorter than you, then just look over his head. If it is higher, then do not look up.
   • If he is the same height as you and is standing nearby, try to portray an absent, indifferent look in case you accidentally meet his eyes.

2. Pass by quickly. Another way to ignore a person is to walk as fast as possible. This will show that you are a busy person, you have time to do a lot of things, and that you have no desire to stop and talk to this person. Walk with your head held high and look like you're in a hurry, even if you're not.

   • If you see this person approaching you from afar, step back a little so you don't accidentally bump into him.
   • Do not turn to the side to get around your enemy. If you cross or turn on the other side of the road, it will show that you care. However, if you see him in the distance and are sure that he does not see you, then it is better indeed to turn off your path and out of sight.

3. Depict some kind of "closedness". If you happen to be near this person, fold your arms across your chest, cross your legs if you're sitting, hunch over a bit, and generally do everything to appear completely out of reach. Your body should say for itself: "Don't talk to me, buddy," and most likely your enemy will understand this hint.

   • Don't smile. Let your face be serious, even a little sullen, to show that you do not want to talk to anyone.
   • You can also draw a face with a blank and meaningless expression that will scare away anyone who tries to talk to you.
   • If you have long hair, bangs, or you are wearing a hat, then try to cover part of your face so that you do not have to look into the eyes of this person.

4. Try to look like you are very busy. You can look either closed off from everything around you, or very, very busy, so much so that you simply cannot spare a second of your time for idle chatter with this person.

   • If you are in this moment with friends, then turn to face them and start something animatedly discussing and gesticulating. This will show that you are too busy to talk or look in anyone's direction.
   • If you are alone, immerse yourself in a book, magazine, or textbook. You can even quietly read aloud, as if you were memorizing something.
   • Always keep a lot in your hands various items. When you walk or sit, hold your phone, textbooks, or a large indoor flower in a pot. Seeing how busy you are, this person will not start a conversation with you.

   Use technology

   1. Use your phone. This will help you ignore any person. There are several ways to use the phone for this purpose. First, you can stare at the phone to look busy as soon as you see your enemy. You can talk to someone on the phone, laugh wildly, or dive headlong into correspondence with someone with whom you would like to communicate at the moment.

      • Change your phone number so this person can't call or text you.
      • Block him in your contacts so you don't receive messages from him.
      • Set your phone to ring when you are near that person so you can pick up the phone and pretend to be talking to someone.

   2. Listen to music. Buy headphones and always wear them when you're alone, even if you're not listening to music. When you see your enemy, turn up the music to the fullest and shake your head to the beat to appear completely absorbed and busy with your own business and not wanting to spend a single minute of your time talking.

      • If you really want to annoy, you can also close your eyes and sing along to the music so that the person does not have the slightest chance of talking to you.

   3. Ignore online. Ignoring on the Internet is much easier than ignoring a person in real life because you won't have to avoid meeting him. In this case, you just need to ignore emails, Facebook posts, Twitter notes, and any other messages on the network.

      • Block this person on your social networks. Make sure he can't contact you online.
      • Change your email address and virtual nicknames, if required. Your enemy should not have a single way to get in touch with you on the network.

   Change your habits

   1. Take a different route. If you want to ignore someone and not meet them every time you go, the easiest thing to do is just change the route you normally take. If you always meet your enemy on the way in between classes, then take a different, longer path to the next lesson so as not to see this person. If you constantly meet him at work, then go down another hallway and use another restroom to keep contact to a minimum.

      • If you meet him wherever you go, then start driving.
      • If your enemy also changed his route in order to catch your eye again, then keep changing your route until he gets tired of this stupid game.

   2. Avoid places where your enemy likes to be. It's elementary. If you know his favorite bars, restaurants and parks, just don't go there anymore. It's not worth it, however, if you're willing to spend enough time there and continuously ignore the person, you can try.

      • You can also remember the days when he usually goes there. If he visits his favorite restaurant on the weekends, and you really want to go there, then try to visit there during the week.
      • If he only goes to his restaurant during discount hours, then you can visit there a little later in the evening.

   3. Go to places where your enemy will never go. For example, if he prefers meat dishes, then look for restaurants in your area that serve vegetarian dishes. If he hates jazz, then go to a jazz concert in your area. If he is at enmity with one of your friends, then at this friend’s party you are unlikely to meet your enemy and be able to have a good time.

      • Visiting places and institutions where this person does not go will help you not only ignore him, but will also open up new and unexplored horizons for you.

   Ignore anyone in any situation

   1. Ignore anyone at school. It might not be easy, especially if you're in the same class, but you can still find a way. Here's how to do it:

      • If you are seated at the same desk as this person, move to another desk. If everyone has their own place in the class, then ask the teacher to transplant you.
      • If you see him at the school canteen, then sit at another table.
      • If you meet him in the hallway of the school, then just look straight ahead, as if you were in such a hurry to the next lesson that you did not notice how you passed this person.
      • If he asks you a question in class, turn your head away as if nothing happened.

   2. Ignore someone at work. This can be quite tricky as you may be sitting next to your enemy or even working on the same project. Anyway, there are several ways to minimize contact.

      • Do not enter the office kitchen or break room while this person is there. Remember when he usually eats in the kitchen or pours himself coffee, and try to have lunch and rest at other times if possible.
      • If you are sitting next to your enemy in the office, then try to focus on working on the computer, and also always have a pile of work papers on hand so that you can immerse yourself in them instead of looking in his direction.
      • This should not affect your professional activity. If you need to discuss something with this person on business matters, discuss it. He will be even more frustrated if you talk to him at work and completely ignore him outside of the workspace.

   3. Ignore someone socially. It's easy enough if you know what to do. You need to rely on your friends and try to stay as far away from this person as possible, even if you are in the same room. Here's what you can do:

      • Surround yourself with friends. Talk to them and laugh like you've never heard anything funnier in your life.
      • Dance. If your enemy approaches you and music is playing, immediately grab your friend and go dancing. If he does approach you on the dance floor, close your eyes as if enjoying the music.
      • If he is in the same circle of friends as you, then immerse yourself in an active conversation with one of your friends. When he starts talking, start scratching your ear or staring at the phone, in a word, act like nothing is happening.
   • Listen to your MP3 player to disengage from the person who is bothering you.
   • If your enemy tries to talk to you, then take out the phone and pretend that you are answering the call.
   • Make sure you have good reasons to ignore the person. (For example, if he wants to ask for forgiveness, then he can be given a chance).
   • If you know that you can meet this person in some certain place(for example, in a store), then check if his car is in the parking lot at the store before entering there.
   • While at work, keep your door closed or pretend to be on the phone.
   • Learn to see people out of the corner of your eye. Then you can pretend not to see them.
   • It is still necessary to talk with your enemy if the reason for your ignoring is completely solvable.
   • If the person you're angry with is sincerely remorseful, then it's probably best for you to forgive him or have a serious talk before cutting off all contact with him. Give him/her a chance - it's most likely just a misunderstanding.
   • If the person you are trying to ignore calls you by name or otherwise gets your attention, then there is an easy way out of this situation. Try to look very busy, say absentmindedly "Hello" and keep walking as if you have urgent business.
   • If you don't like this person, then doing all this is even easier.

   Warnings

   • Ignoring a person who sincerely wants to talk to you brings a lot of pain and suffering to a person. Before you start ignoring someone, make sure he/she really deserves it.